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I have only just registered with this site and have read this message board with great interest. I mostly identify as lesbian but have recently, after splitting with my girlfriend, started occassionally sleeping with men. I now identify as pansexual, although I have only told a couple of people as I believe that many of the lesbian friends I have would be totally disgusted - as many of them are total man-haters. I now have a huge problem with the way in which we are forced to take on sexual labels. So much so that my MA dissertation is on the subject of pansexuality. If anyone who has had the same or similar experiences would like to participate in my research then please email and i can conduct a brief email interview.
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Rachel
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i'm sure all of this has already been said, or at least something close, but i want to have my say anyway. i'm an 18 year old bisexual in a long term relationship with a man, and while i do want to explore my sexuality with a woman, i tried being with a single woman and, as has been said, it did not work out. she became too close and, while not identifying it as "love", she did not want me to leave, which i will have to once i am married.
however.
i have friends, two women and a man, who are all in a relationship with each other. the man and one of the women are legally married, and the other woman is in a loving, caring relationship with both members of the couple. this, i'm sure, is not terribly common as it would be difficult for most people to handle without much argument and strife. i would just like to throw that out there and say, yes, it is possible for such a relationship to exist.
at the moment i am looking for another woman who is in a committed relationship, or one who is willing to try a relationship with both me and my male counterpart.
i'm sure there are strong opinions on this subject; i know some feel that it's impossible, some feel it would take more maturity than most could handle, and most just say those people are greedy and oversexed. i, however, have seen such a relationship in action and have high hopes for my friends and myself.
on the topic of general bisexuality, i was not at first sexually attracted to women. i had always been more about men, but i knew that i could love women just as strongly and fiercely as i had ever loved a man. then, after years of this, i realized that i was strongly sexually attracted to my best friend. this past fall i realized that i'd been holding myself back, thinking that sex with women was wrong, as i had been brought up to believe.
i am not "having trouble making up my mind" or "not wanting to choose". i love women, and i love men. and i fully believe that people can love more than one person. i do not, however, think that anyone should hurt anyone through bisexuality. if this is causing barriers, but the woman feels unfulfilled with only a man, she should look for another woman with the same sentiments.
and an understanding boyfriend.
-Becca
however.
i have friends, two women and a man, who are all in a relationship with each other. the man and one of the women are legally married, and the other woman is in a loving, caring relationship with both members of the couple. this, i'm sure, is not terribly common as it would be difficult for most people to handle without much argument and strife. i would just like to throw that out there and say, yes, it is possible for such a relationship to exist.
at the moment i am looking for another woman who is in a committed relationship, or one who is willing to try a relationship with both me and my male counterpart.
i'm sure there are strong opinions on this subject; i know some feel that it's impossible, some feel it would take more maturity than most could handle, and most just say those people are greedy and oversexed. i, however, have seen such a relationship in action and have high hopes for my friends and myself.
on the topic of general bisexuality, i was not at first sexually attracted to women. i had always been more about men, but i knew that i could love women just as strongly and fiercely as i had ever loved a man. then, after years of this, i realized that i was strongly sexually attracted to my best friend. this past fall i realized that i'd been holding myself back, thinking that sex with women was wrong, as i had been brought up to believe.
i am not "having trouble making up my mind" or "not wanting to choose". i love women, and i love men. and i fully believe that people can love more than one person. i do not, however, think that anyone should hurt anyone through bisexuality. if this is causing barriers, but the woman feels unfulfilled with only a man, she should look for another woman with the same sentiments.
and an understanding boyfriend.
-Becca
I have never been around anyone that is in more than one relationship, but i believe it can work if all of the people involved are on the same page about everything. It's definately something that the people involved have to be comfortable with, they can't have jealous personalities or it won't work at all.
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I don't see how some one who is lesbian, gay, queer, etc can speak illy of ppl with different sexual preferences, such as bisexuality, or a straight person. I mean up until a few years ago, it wasn't ok to be gay, let alone anything that wasn't straight and monogamous. Gay ppl fought so strong for the right to be who they are. Most take offense to ppl who criticize them for being who they are. How can they, knowing how ppl like them or ppl that are viewed as "different" pass that judgment on to some one in the same boat? I mean I'm fine with the sexuality that anyone chooses, me being bisexual, would feel hypocritical if I said that lesbianism, or being straight was wrong. I dunno it just doesn't make sense to me.
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I don't see how some one who is lesbian, gay, queer, etc can speak illy of ppl with different sexual preferences, such as bisexuality, or a straight person. I mean up until a few years ago, it wasn't ok to be gay, let alone anything that wasn't straight and monogamous. Gay ppl fought so strong for the right to be who they are. Most take offense to ppl who criticize them for being who they are. How can they, knowing how ppl like them or ppl that are viewed as "different" pass that judgment on to some one in the same boat? I mean I'm fine with the sexuality that anyone chooses, me being bisexual, would feel hypocritical if I said that lesbianism, or being straight was wrong. I dunno it just doesn't make sense to me.
Took the words right out of my mouth. I came out as a bisexual this past September, and I remember the first homosexual person I told (a gay man and a now former roommate) didn't think that we should be classified in similar labels (of which he was all about when talking about people). When I told a lesbian friend of mine, she told me that she hated it when people called themselves bisexual because, to her, it was like they couldn't make up their mind.
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