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wow I am not alone in this either and I thought for a moment I was perhaps insane or perhaps something was wrong with me as I do like to look at some. I say some men naked as they do look good but when it comes to myself having a sexual affrair with a man no thanks I prefer a female anyday and feel that i am 100% lesbian yet it is ok in my book to look as long as you don't touch as the thought of having a sexual affair with a man is simply just gross.

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Yaoi is a popular form of manga hentai focusing on young gay men, usually one younger and the other older. The fact is that statistically, most everyone is a little bi, but regardless, human beings are sexual, and if you see a human being being sexual, you are probably going to be turned on by it, no matter your sexual preference. It's perfectly okay, and it shouldn't effect your self-view, except as someone who, like the rest of the primates, likes sex.

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Yeah, I feel similarly to you guys about the levels of naked I can take with men.
I used to be very butch in high school, and I walked like a boy and talked like one, but I identified as Bi because I wasn't 100% sure about what I was. Now, after I've tried relationships with men (I didn't want to just say "I'm gay" unless I was sure I wasn't into sex with men) I realise that I am able to find a man sexy and be attracted to him on a superficial and pheramone based level...
... but as soon as the pants are off, so am I. A naked man... it just turns me off. I just don't have any interest in men sexualy. Male genitalia is like a kill-switch for my libido.

I still see a cute boy and sometimes want to flirt, and I'm fairly sure I could kiss a boy and be turned on... but it stops there. Pheremones only do so much before reality sets in and you remember WHAT he's got and WHERE he wants it to go.

I've met a lot of people (gay and otherwise) that say that every lesbian has that one guy that they would have sex with, and that might be true, but I've yet to encounter a guy naked that I could stomach the horizontal tango with.
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View PostRaychelle_E, on 28 October 2004 - 11:28 PM, said:

I have a question? Okay I like to look at men nude (not at all to the extent of when I was calling myself being straight), I think some are cute hell I've even went to see male strippers with my straight friends. BUT I have absolutly no desire to have a relationship with a man or sleep with a men (I did enjoy the strip show). And with women I pretty much like them 100%. are there any other lesbians on here who have some sort of attraction to men but don't consider themselves bi?

Ray Gay :twisted:
I have known other lesbians who liked gay porn, Yaoi, and otherwise looking at men. One lesbian friend explained it to me thus, people, human beings are sexual creatures. We're sexy, sexual, and have sex. We find ourselves appealing for sexual reasons and like the aesthetics of our own natural bodies beyond that of pure sexual/romantic preferences. If you ever have the chance, see if you can find a genuine male lesbian (a lot of straight guys claim to be them, but aren't), not necessarily for anything other than talking. It might seem like a weird label, but if you can find one, it might expand what you know about sex, gender, identity, and sexuality.

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View PostJenniferlynn08, on 27 October 2008 - 06:23 AM, said:

wow I am not alone in this either and I thought for a moment I was perhaps insane or perhaps something was wrong with me as I do like to look at some. I say some men naked as they do look good but when it comes to myself having a sexual affrair with a man no thanks I prefer a female anyday and feel that i am 100% lesbian yet it is ok in my book to look as long as you don't touch as the thought of having a sexual affair with a man is simply just gross.
Gross is a harsh word.

View PostTori_bird, on 02 July 2012 - 10:22 AM, said:

Yeah, I feel similarly to you guys about the levels of naked I can take with men.
I used to be very butch in high school, and I walked like a boy and talked like one, but I identified as Bi because I wasn't 100% sure about what I was. Now, after I've tried relationships with men (I didn't want to just say "I'm gay" unless I was sure I wasn't into sex with men) I realise that I am able to find a man sexy and be attracted to him on a superficial and pheramone based level...
... but as soon as the pants are off, so am I. A naked man... it just turns me off. I just don't have any interest in men sexualy. Male genitalia is like a kill-switch for my libido.

I still see a cute boy and sometimes want to flirt, and I'm fairly sure I could kiss a boy and be turned on... but it stops there. Pheremones only do so much before reality sets in and you remember WHAT he's got and WHERE he wants it to go.

I've met a lot of people (gay and otherwise) that say that every lesbian has that one guy that they would have sex with, and that might be true, but I've yet to encounter a guy naked that I could stomach the horizontal tango with.
You know, it doesn't have to involve penetration. More guys nowadays are into pegging.

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Uhhhh... no thanks. He'd have to be naked, so no. =___=;
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wow! i wish i found this site and this topic of discussion years ago. i really needed this because i only know of 1 lesbian (my ex) who totally understood this and felt the same as i.
i identify as gay (sometimes i say lesbian) and i love the human body as a whole. i enjoy looking at a man or woman's body & i have been attracted to both. but emotionally, i only feel that connection with a woman and that's why i consider myself gay. my definition of bi is a person with the ability to be in love with a man or a woman. i only feel that type of connection with women & that's why i don't consider myself bi. however, i used to say i was bi when i was a teenager because i wasn't ready to accept that i was a gay. it felt...safer that way. like i didn't fully cross over into the dangerous unknown and i still had a chance to be what others think i should be. but i was young and afraid of what i was.
as an adult, i like looking at everything. the lesbian stuff seems so contrived & just based on a frat boy's fantasy of what 2 chicks would do on camera so i never found any that seemed like the women actually 1. enjoyed what they were doing & 2. looked like they knew what the hell they were doing. (until recently. and it's amateur. and they're bi. and i am now a fan for life.)
i've had wet dreams about guys & women. and i've been with both. the difference is, 1 will get kicked out the bed & out the house right after it goes down & the other could possibly have me forever. and they'll get breakfast in bed, too.

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View Postkladdaugh, on 18 July 2012 - 05:14 PM, said:

see if you can find a genuine male lesbian (a lot of straight guys claim to be them, but aren't)

I'm confused... What's a male lesbian?

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View PostDianaBlue, on 15 July 2013 - 08:40 AM, said:

I'm confused... What's a male lesbian?
Well, that's why I said it would expand your understanding of about sex, gender, identity, and sexuality. A male lesbian is a male who is attracted to women, but in a very non-heteronormative way. In terms of sex, he will be born male and is usually okay with being male, just not the other aspects of it than solely having the male body: expected clothing, behavior, ways of thinking, interacting, et cetera. For gender identity, he may not consider himself masculine partially or at all, which will present itself in a lot of ways, like not abiding by masculine gender roles, crossdressing, or being attracted to partners and friends, who themselves do not follow heteronormative rules. For identity, he may identify as genderfluid, genderqueer, trans, cis, and so on. On gender identification tests, male lesbians tend to register in the middle to feminine range. For sexuality, though, a male lesbian has all the sexual desires found in a lesbian, and very atypically in heterosexual men, so this is where the distinguishing line gets drawn even heavier. A male lesbian may not want his genitals used in sex at all, and although not necessarily a submissive or passive lover, enjoys giving pleasure to a partner as much as he enjoys receiving it. He'll also (with astounding frequency) feel attracted to lesbian women in the way that lesbian women are, and not in the way that straight men are. Also, he may feel better when a woman takes the so-called "masculine role" in courtship, and pursues/initiates things with him. To him it will feel good, right, and comfortable, even to be held securely in a lover's arms, or gently pinned against a wall, couch, or bed; what society considers a feminine position.
A male lesbian does NOT want to convert a lesbian woman to being straight.
Now, my interpretation is tangent to Gilmartin, who identified some other traits to male lesbians, back in 1987, that were more trends or tendencies. I suspect that GIlmartin didn't look at how those traits coincided with others in the subjects' demographics. Anyway, DianaBlue, I hope that helped clear up a bit.

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Wow, yeah, that clarifies things quite a bit actually, thank you so much!





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