LizzieLou

The Time Has Come

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I am probably one of the only lesbians here who will admit that I actually favor civil union over legal marriage. I'm not saying that others should not get married if they want to, but for me marriage in the sense of heterosexual marriage is nothing but a huge prom and the entitlement to share debt for the rest of your lives to me. Does anyone else feel the same or agree with some parts?

In the movie "Twilight" Edward is asked by Bella why marriage is so important to him, in her day it meant a girl her age was knocked up. He said, "In my day it was one of the most deepest ways to show the amount of love you have for another person." All the things you say marriage means are in a relationship, married or not. If everything is this is mine and that is your's, your just living together having sex.

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Marriage equality is about waaay more than the right to marry who you choose. And please, I beg you never to use the term "gay marriage"- ever! Marriage does not have a sexuality & the term is used to incite trouble & a negative connotation.

Marriage is the pinacle for LGBT+ rights as they stand now. Marriage, as a civil partnership, gives more than the things that are talked about (tax-related, medical-related, etc).

The biggest outcome of marriage equality will be the fact that it "qualifies" us, gives us a certain "respectability"- which is on par with the rest of the hetero-citizens. This is not to say that our value must be tied to marriage- but more that is a major starting point to place us on equal footing with regards to marriage. It will eventually lead to us having full & equal status across the board.

Imho.

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I think it's a beautiful thing that now gay people can marry. It's all about who you love and who you want to make a formal commitment to. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

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All I can say is that I´ve actively dreamed of marrying since I was a kid and I'm not letting anyone tell me it can't be done... if they don't agree with it it's their business, they can miss my wedding if they want, I'm still having it at some point of my life. There are really gorgeous gay weddings featured on Offbeat Bride, so if they did it we can all do it too.

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On 4/20/2007 at 6:10 PM, no longer active member said:

Oh Goddess that's hilarious!!! My parents are the most conservative, southern baptist, homophobic people I've ever met, and look at me!

My folks aren't Southern Baptist but close enough LMAO! They are completely lgbt+phobic and are even teaching my nine-year old sister to be the same way!!!  Ugh...anyway as a poly but woman I want to marry according to my needs. Gay marriage is legal throughout the country now but I'm still waiting on people to wake up and get poly marriage legal too. 

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Poly Bi  woman.... It seems my keyboard is being a little phobic today... Smh

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Dear Old Forum Thread, 

Guess What? The time did come after all! 

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lesbian weddings are fun i went to my cousins lesbian wedding it was awesome

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There at least two dozen countries that perform and recognize marriage equality of two people, a half dozen that respect the rights, but does not perform... C'mon, poly-marriages!

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Same-sex equality isn't even a standard yet (may take another few decades & hopefully not rolled back by the religious-extremists). Poly marrige-equality will be a long way away, if ever. Society takes forever to evolve....

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You're not wrong there. Taiwan is the latest battle (and the secular is FULLY supportive passing it by law). First Asian country ftw?

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The world today is so much different than the one I grew up in.

Then - knowing that I was a lesbian also meant knowing that I was broken in some way.
Today - I am accepted and happy in my understanding that homosexuality is both normal and natural.

Then - a same sex marriage was a laughable concept.
Today - a lesbian couple that I have known for many years, announced that they are engaged to be married and have expressed their wishes to have me officiate the wedding.

Then - a minister was a member of the clergy and most likely a man.
Today -  I (an agnostic, homosexual woman) became an ordained minister.

We really have come a long way, no matter how many miles there are left to travel.

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I come from a broken home so I would have to be with a person for a very long time before I even consider marriage... I really don't want to go through divorce and the statistics and my own experience tells me people trust themselves too quickly when they are blinded by love. It needs to stand the test of time first! This next bit might sound silly to some but honestly if I end up with a man I don't think I'm that bothered about marriage full stop. I mean really... it is just a piece of paper to me. Like I'd be happy to have the party without the legalities. But then at the same time, seeing as gay marriage has only been legal for a couple years, if I end up with a woman, the urge to marry would be much greater simply to celebrate the fact that I am able to! Just to stick it to all those religious leaders and conservative wankers who tell me gay love is breaking the sanctity of marriage! Like shit according to the bible it's a sin to wear fabric made of more than one material or to eat seafood... now we realise that was written as a health and safety warning given the time it was wrote... I hate when people pick and choose which parts of a religion should be allowed to evolve with the times based on their closed mindedness!

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