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Dating Married Women

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Well, as a married woman, I would of course date a married woman. Yes, it's complicated, but isn't every relationship? Bisexual women are sometimes catagorized as omnisexuals. Not to say that there aren't some who are, but for those of us who aren't, it makes it difficult. I am a polyamorous person. I have a life mate, but that isn't the only person in the world that I feel that I will ever want to connect with on a deeper level and I don't restrain myself to that. The old saying is true, "Nobody wants to play with the bi girls, except for the bi girls." So for the ladies who will date married women, thank you! It's hard enough to find a nice woman to be with, much less find a woman who accepts you, your mate, your kid, your etc.

I'm in the same boat :)

I had a "girlfriend" who is also married with kids (I'm married, no kids), but it didn't work out because she chose to lie to her husband about the extent of our relationship (she is a good woman, just has a problem verbalizing and maintaining her boundaries with those she finds difficult to do so with) - I have been truthful with my husband, and he accepts that I desire a deep connection and some physical aspect with another woman. I firmly believe that with honesty in a marriage, these things can work. Otherwise, it'll be just complicated like Lise believes. I refuse to have that kind of complication drawn from a lie or omission. That IS my own boundary, and is the main reason I ended things between me and my girlfriend or rather.. FILF (friend i'd like to f**k). That's another story.

I suppose a married woman has a different idea of commitment from a single lesbian. It IS easier if married women find comfort in one another. ;) I don't want to hurt women who have expectations of being treated like numero uno in the relationship (my husband IS numero uno), and because they will NOT get that from me.. only as primary girlfriend, though, with the understanding that my husband comes first to me. I tend to avoid 'em as far as romantic entanglements are concerned (no offense). I'm not opposed to having them as friends either :) I just respect that fine line of having different expectations.. that's all, ya know?

I'm glad I found this forum - because I've felt entirely alien in having these feelings and experience, and I have found there is helluva more wives who feel this way, too... thanks. :) I still have a lot to learn!

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I would never date a married woman, it's a personal choice.

There are instances where I would feel it being morally okay for others though,

such as the woman would be open and honest with her partner

and that they have agreed for the relationship to be an open one.

~Sterling

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HEY ALL INTRESTING CONVO ONE I KNOW MUCH ABOUT

MY BEST FRIEND WHO WAS MARRIED TOLD ME SHE WAS IN LOVE WITH ME WELL I FELT THE SAME SO I WENT DOWN TO SEE HER SINCE WE LIVE FAR AWAY FROM EACH OTHER AND WE TRYED IT OUT AND I HATED IT SHE WOULD LIKE BE ALL OVER ME WHEN HE WASNT AROUND AND WHEN HE WAS ITS WAS LIKE I'D GO CRAZY EVEN SEEING HIM SO I WOULD NEVER DATE A MARRIED WOMAN AGAIN I FINALLY TOLD LOOK I DONT WANNA BREAK U GUYS UP BUT U GOTTA MAKE A CHOICE AND I KNOW U WILL PROB CHOOSE HIM SINCE U GOT KIDS TOGETHER AND I WAS BASICLY JUST A PHASE SHE WAS GOING THREW SO THATS MY STROY I RODE HOME ON THE BUS CRUSHED

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Thanks for sharing your opinions and stories, Sterling and BRENN. As I've stated before I wouldn't do, life is too short to settle and I think I deserve better than that and so do all of you. Good Luck Ladies :!:

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after reading everyones postings it seems that what may work for some may not be good for others...and i guess thats fine as long as people follow some basic rules..first to be honest and open with whoever is going to be affected by your actions, and second to understand the repercussions of ones actions...

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Thank you, Alissa for your thoughtful response :!:

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I have a life mate, but that isn't the only person in the world that I feel that I will ever want to connect with on a deeper level and I don't restrain myself to that.

How VERY true - I am married to a wonderful man who has known that I'm bisexual almost from the get-go, finds it delightful and wants only for me to fulfill my wish: which is, ultimately, to find a female lover/friend to compliment my bisexual-femme side. G, my hubby, is extraordinarily accepting of my orientation and always has been and we feel that we could both balance an equation of three as long as there was total honesty among all parties from the start - that is essential.

When I told him I had posed a profile on Lesbotronic, however, he took a look and said, "It's lesbian - will that do you any good?" I then explained to him about certain prejudices within the lesbian community which, I feel, have kept me from meeting someone (i.e., a great many think that bi women are just 'having it both ways") but that what had attracted me to this site was the fact that it stated, up front, it had a broad definition of "lesbian" - right then, I decided to post and I feel VERY optimistic about finding someone on here.

My love of women and of the female body is strong and has been a part of me for years and years - yet, I love being around men and being married to one. I think people are only as limited as they make themselves - in relationships or any other forum - and to reject a chance at a wonderful, fulfilling relationship just because a woman is bisexual and married is, I think, to deprive you and the other person of a potentially wonderful linkage.

I think I'm blithering now, so I'll stop and see what others have to say.

Lara

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I am new, but this is a subject near and dear to my heart so I decided to respond. I am married to the most wonderful man in the world. He has known from the beginning about my sexuality. He not only supports me but is actively trying to find me a girlfriend.

As far as the can he play too. Yes he can with a few ground rules that apply to us both. This has worked for five years for us, so we're very comfortable with it. I would also like to date a married woman because of the reasons already stated.

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I'm new to the group and i have to say sometimes it is just so much easier to connect or date a married woman because i am a married woman. But the catch is my husband doesn't know that i'm bi sexual because of my own reasons but i know for a fact I have the emotional bond with him that i wouldn't be interested in finding in another man or woman. It's sometimes easier to date married women and sometimes it's not. I'm been bi for over a year and this is the first time i have ever posted on any kind of site to find friendships and/or more on that kind of level.

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