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Where are the older wiser women?

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Hello everyone ... just poking around the boards to see what's going on or what's not going on. Where have all the older wiser women gone ... acck ...reminiscent of a very old folk song huh?

At any rate I just thought I'd peek in and say hello. Anyone out there? 

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define older and wiser. i will give you a hint, in my case, the two do not go hand in hand

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well, i hit 37 in a month and a half. some may think that ancient while others may think i am just a pup. it matters not either way. i am very fond of good judgement comes from experience, experience comes from poor judgement. i feel i have more than my fair share of experience, but then again that was my choice at that time. in most of my circles, though, i am kind of a tribal elder/peacekeeper.

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for the longest time my mantra was live and learn. a few things happened in my life that started me to actually question whether or not i was actually learning just because i was still living or was i just riding a wave of sheer dumb luck. someone pointed out to me that perhaps i was learning because i was sub/consciously avoiding things, events, places, people, etc that before would put me in jeopardy. still i wonder if that applies as much as i would like to think it does.

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i just love learning just for the sake of doing so, regardless of who or how old. i prefer older and wiser as long as they are not tired of three stooges/marx brothers/bugs bunny humor. then they tend to throw me to the wolves.

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gowing old is mandatory, maturity is optional. i really enjoy this one. so much fun

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your little girl needs to decide what the boundaries are in advance. plain and simple. flying by the seats of our pants just invites trouble. the other thing is that after a few bad ones, we all 'know' what we don't want, but we never look at what exactly it is that we do want. boundaries are supposed to be in place beforehand. this does not mean that the boundaries have to be hard and firm, like everything in life, it depends. but prior boundaries at least give us a jumping off point and we can adjust them as needed. the last note about boundaries, they do no good when you do not enforce them. if you set them, be prepared to make them stand. like battle plans, they often fall apart during the first few minutes of engagement, but they do provide a point of reference so that all is not lost and you can always go back to them.

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something i ran across (or was that over?) is good judgement comes from experience, experience comes from poor judgement. of course there are some experiences that i would give anything to have not gone through. kinda like the only kindness for an immortal would be alzheimer's.

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Having childlike qualities is one of the greatest treasures one can have. Think about it, the sense of wonder, innocence, curiosity, playfulness, etc. These help to keep us healthy, sane, and to enjoy life. The wisdom of age is to help us make the most out of the choices we make when we let our inner child play. Just because we age, does not mean we have to act older, unless of course it is for enjoyment. The Catten at my house is a perfect example. She is roughly six years old, but she still retains a lot of kitten-like qualities, especially when she plays. For the most part, she is a good role model.

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Hey gals 

Older and wiser... well, I am a lil older lol. Wiser remains to be seen lol. I have been 'out' for a few years (a few as in how many hands am i allowed to use?) lol.

I have a philosophy, and it is this. Age and intelligence sometimes don't go hand in hand. And as a lesbian in this new world that has developed since the politics have evolved, I think the saying "we have come a long way baby' hits the mark.

We have come a long way ladies, and our foremothers lol have paved the way for us to be who we are. As an older lesbian I say let's make the most of what we have achieved.

Okay, Ill say it.. im 39 (holds hand to chest and gasps) lol. I will be 40 next year but does that number scare me? At times but I know that we are changing, the thinking about lesbians, gays etc is changing and we are being accepted for who we are.

So I say yay! and smile big because when I hit 40 I know that I will be in a different place than i am today, and it is because of the apparent 'older and wiser' lesbians and the present and up and coming gals who accept who they are.. and aren't afraid to say it 

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well, my mind periodically wanders and sometimes gets distracted, or is it lost? still trying to learn something each day.

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Most of the older (wiser) women I know are like me (64) travelling around australia in a motorhome , its a place where you dont have to go far from the tropics to the snow from surf to desert and all that , we have a great range of climates and lots of open space. Love to hear from any of you out there .

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I'm glad this forum is here. I am a hairs breath away from 50 and recently out of a relationship with my ex who is 18 years older. Sometimes it is not meant to be however, I really learned that life can throw a curveball just to keep you on your toes.

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Older and wiser sure sounds a world better than older and weary. As we go on, how many times do we choose the path of least resistance because we are just too tired to try the alternatives?

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Exactly why some people don't get wiser, they just get older!

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I am older but I might be on the verge of becoming like my mother--a wise ass.

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when someone asks me where another is, face to face, the automatic reply is that i sold them for drug money. not everyone sees the humour, especially coast guard inspectors at a dry dock. that normally ends up with me having to take yet another pee test.

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Hello all of you "Older and Wiser"

I don't know if I'm wiser, but I'm 63 and that's certainly older! Just recently out of a (believe this or not) twenty six year relationship. My partner decided after all of this time that she had grown apart from me and she wanted out. So, here I am and I can say that I'm as lost as I can be. Just not used to doing things by myself. Maybe I'm still "young" enough to find someone out there who likes to laugh and enjoy life. I live in Ft Worth, Texas. My pic is up in the corner (not a very good one) and I have enjoyed reading the post on this subject from each and every one of you!

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Well, I just turned 46, and honestly, I cannot sat that my advice to anyone has changed from when I was 36. I still cannot think that blowing my brains out is not a viable option. Not one that I would reccommend to others, but for myself, it still remains an option. Wisdom does not appear to affect this thinking despite the efforts of professionals. Now make no mistake, I am not feeling suicidal, it is just that that option has always been a viable one for myself. Once thought, it is impossible to be rid of such thoughts unless, that part of the brain holding the idea is physically removed or alzheimers or some other form of dementia set in.

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On February 19, 2006 at 10:49 AM, no longer active member said:

Hello everyone ... just poking around the boards to see what's going on or what's not going on. There hasn't been a post here in a while. Where have all the older wiser women gone ... acck ...reminiscent of a very old folk song huh?

At any rate I just thought I'd peek in and say hello. Anyone out there? 

I'm here. 55, looking for my other half still. Life is hard. 

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I am older ahhhh yes and so much wiser now .But dont act or look my age I was just 54 OUCH that hurt to say!!!! lol I look 43 and act well...... depends on the day. I was in a 14 yr relationship and shes 16 yrs younger than me,I do like younger woman but boy they seem REALLY young here.And to all u younger Ladies we older women have alot to offer *wink

I feel like that . 55, impossible !! 

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I'm here. I turned 55 this past spring. I LIKE being older. Life is much better now than it was when I was younger.

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ashleigh said:

Having childlike qualities is one of the greatest treasures one can have. Think about it, the sense of wonder, innocence, curiosity, playfulness, etc. These help to keep us healthy, sane, and to enjoy life. The wisdom of age is to help us make the most out of the choices we make when we let our inner child play. Just because we age, does not mean we have to act older, unless of course it is for enjoyment. The Catten at my house is a perfect example. She is roughly six years old, but she still retains a lot of kitten-like qualities, especially when she plays. For the most part, she is a good role model.

 

I am mid 60's, but definitely, have the mindset of someone much younger. I want to do things my body says Woh too. I am looking to find another after the death of my partner of 6 yrs. People often miss guessing my age. I would love to find someone within 10yrs either way of my age with the same attitude.

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Older is good... Maturity through life experiences.... Ive always prefered older women . Or now, the same age or older, since now . Im older.I just turned 51.

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On the same note,my ex was 7years older. Thats her on the right. Time to put a new picture up ay?

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