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Where are the older wiser women?

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Just so this forum. So here I am, older and wiser. I know people say age is nothing but a number but I find that for me, it is more than a number. It's a reality. Just as there are young people who are well on the road to wisdom, there are older people who still don't have a clue. I keep running into them. Life is a lesson. Beyond the age of 50, one should have a phD. It has nothing to do with how smart you are. It has to do with getting intouch with your own humanity. The important lessons seem to be ignored, i.e., do not be cruel to others simply because others have been cruel to you; if you don't like the horrible depressing feelings when someone lies or plays you, don't lie, don't play others. Find the courage to be honest. That's my take on it. Frankly I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than to be with another person who cannot be honest, fair, kind and considerate. That's my take on it. What say you?

ILIKEMEUWILL2

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Wow i guess i am in this category, yikes.

I am 41 and unfortunately have to act my age at work, but play like i am 25. 

i still play sports, ride my motorcycle, go boating, go sledding with my 9 yr old nephew and whatever else he wants to drag me into!

i still go tailgate at the KSU football games, hit concerts with my college step-daughter and do whatever hits my mood regardless of age.

would i go back to being 25? some days yes, but mostly no. i like 41 and all that has come with it except the parts that want to break down on me occasionally, ha.

this age thing has prevented me from putting my pic on this site! if anyone knows how to shrink a pic let me know. the one i tried to use worked fine on my myspace profile, but here they say the KB are too big. any ideas? 

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I am older ahhhh yes and so much wiser now .But dont act or look my age I was just 54 OUCH that hurt to say!!!! lol I look 43 and act well...... depends on the day. I was in a 14 yr relationship and shes 16 yrs younger than me,I do like younger woman but boy they seem REALLY young here.And to all u younger Ladies we older women have alot to offer *wink

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Another older and wiser...or maybe I should say 'mature and wiser'... I also still feel 25, although that was quite some time ago!

I have to say that each decade is getting better, and I am more comfortable with myself with each passing year.

Melodi

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Having childlike qualities is one of the greatest treasures one can have. Think about it, the sense of wonder, innocence, curiosity, playfulness, etc. These help to keep us healthy, sane, and to enjoy life. The wisdom of age is to help us make the most out of the choices we make when we let our inner child play. Just because we age, does not mean we have to act older, unless of course it is for enjoyment. The Catten at my house is a perfect example. She is roughly six years old, but she still retains a lot of kitten-like qualities, especially when she plays. For the most part, she is a good role model.

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If wiser means finally embracing a hidden side of oneself, then I'm there! I'm 45 and have finally decided to stop ignoring my urges and go for it. Difficult with three kids from two marriages, but hey, if not now, when?

What I'm finding, however, is that I'm like a lesbian leper. I've made lots of great friends, but no one wants to date or hook up with a newbie . . . they must think I'm just experimenting. The look on one woman's face last Sat said it all: I was at a meetup.com lesbian get-together at a bar, and stayed till it fizzled out (like I always do!) and there was just me and two couples left (on dates). One young woman said to me, "So, you didn't find anyone you liked tonight?" and I replied, "Nah, I guess no one wants to hook up with a newbie." She thought I meant new to the meetup.com group, and said something like, "Oh, that doesn't matter!" And I said, "No, new to the lifestyle" and before she could think, her lip curled up and she actually grimaced and said, "Oh, nooooo, eeewww" and then she realized I meant me, and said "Oh, but you're older, you KNOW what you want, that shouldn't matter." Good cover up, but her face said it all. I'm the lesbian leper.

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Hey gals 

Older and wiser... well, I am a lil older lol. Wiser remains to be seen lol. I have been 'out' for a few years (a few as in how many hands am i allowed to use?) lol.

I have a philosophy, and it is this. Age and intelligence sometimes don't go hand in hand. And as a lesbian in this new world that has developed since the politics have evolved, I think the saying "we have come a long way baby' hits the mark.

We have come a long way ladies, and our foremothers lol have paved the way for us to be who we are. As an older lesbian I say let's make the most of what we have achieved.

Okay, Ill say it.. im 39 (holds hand to chest and gasps) lol. I will be 40 next year but does that number scare me? At times but I know that we are changing, the thinking about lesbians, gays etc is changing and we are being accepted for who we are.

So I say yay! and smile big because when I hit 40 I know that I will be in a different place than i am today, and it is because of the apparent 'older and wiser' lesbians and the present and up and coming gals who accept who they are.. and aren't afraid to say it 

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so what ever happened with y'all?

Well hopefully happiness was found for all from within.

You are right when you say, and I am going to paraphrase; life/journey will lead you back to you again. No one will ever find their happiness in another person. True Happiness absolutely comes from within and it is not your friends, families or lovers responsibility to provide your happiness. They can always share and celebrate but not give you happy joy joy.

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I am going to broach a sensitive subject (well, at least for me this is very difficult). I have been alone for almost 2 years now. There are times when I am okay, but often feel - well, empty. I do passionately believe in social justice and experience moral outrage at the crimes of the corporate exploiters. This awakening happened about 10 years ago. Before that, I was your stumble along more-or-less post high-school educated Republican from an evangelical background. Thanks be to education, books, and an inner core of self that resonates with passion and solidarity of common people, I have learned much about the history of our nation, the labor history movement, and the socialist ideals of the great Eugene Deb and more recent heroes as Howard Zinn.

I am not looking so much for the sex side of it but am looking for someone who knows who Joe Hill, Sacco and Vanzetti, Mother Jones were. Do you know what the Luddlow Massacre is, or the Pullman Strike? Do you know about the Shirtwaist factory fire in the early 1900s?

I want a partner that we can work together for these things. I favor a butch woman, but one who also knows who the enemy is - and that enemy is the wealthy, the corporations, the rulers and their purchased governmental leaders; the enemy is the Christian evangelical, fundamentalist right-wing fascists. Yes, I know. I sound kind of crazy. Well, today I watched the film documentary about Ralph Nader, and who he is does in fact define my own anger and obsession with corporate criminals and the belief in their destruction.

Anyone here like that for me?

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well, my mind periodically wanders and sometimes gets distracted, or is it lost? still trying to learn something each day.

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Most of the older (wiser) women I know are like me (64) travelling around australia in a motorhome , its a place where you dont have to go far from the tropics to the snow from surf to desert and all that , we have a great range of climates and lots of open space. Love to hear from any of you out there .

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I'm glad this forum is here. I am a hairs breath away from 50 and recently out of a relationship with my ex who is 18 years older. Sometimes it is not meant to be however, I really learned that life can throw a curveball just to keep you on your toes.

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Older and wiser sure sounds a world better than older and weary. As we go on, how many times do we choose the path of least resistance because we are just too tired to try the alternatives?

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Exactly why some people don't get wiser, they just get older!

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I am older but I might be on the verge of becoming like my mother--a wise ass.

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when someone asks me where another is, face to face, the automatic reply is that i sold them for drug money. not everyone sees the humour, especially coast guard inspectors at a dry dock. that normally ends up with me having to take yet another pee test.

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Hello all of you "Older and Wiser"

I don't know if I'm wiser, but I'm 63 and that's certainly older! Just recently out of a (believe this or not) twenty six year relationship. My partner decided after all of this time that she had grown apart from me and she wanted out. So, here I am and I can say that I'm as lost as I can be. Just not used to doing things by myself. Maybe I'm still "young" enough to find someone out there who likes to laugh and enjoy life. I live in Ft Worth, Texas. My pic is up in the corner (not a very good one) and I have enjoyed reading the post on this subject from each and every one of you!

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Well, I just turned 46, and honestly, I cannot sat that my advice to anyone has changed from when I was 36. I still cannot think that blowing my brains out is not a viable option. Not one that I would reccommend to others, but for myself, it still remains an option. Wisdom does not appear to affect this thinking despite the efforts of professionals. Now make no mistake, I am not feeling suicidal, it is just that that option has always been a viable one for myself. Once thought, it is impossible to be rid of such thoughts unless, that part of the brain holding the idea is physically removed or alzheimers or some other form of dementia set in.

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On February 19, 2006 at 10:49 AM, no longer active member said:

Hello everyone ... just poking around the boards to see what's going on or what's not going on. There hasn't been a post here in a while. Where have all the older wiser women gone ... acck ...reminiscent of a very old folk song huh?

At any rate I just thought I'd peek in and say hello. Anyone out there? 

I'm here. 55, looking for my other half still. Life is hard. 

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no longer active member said:

I am older ahhhh yes and so much wiser now .But dont act or look my age I was just 54 OUCH that hurt to say!!!! lol I look 43 and act well...... depends on the day. I was in a 14 yr relationship and shes 16 yrs younger than me,I do like younger woman but boy they seem REALLY young here.And to all u younger Ladies we older women have alot to offer *wink

I feel like that . 55, impossible !! 

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I'm here. I turned 55 this past spring. I LIKE being older. Life is much better now than it was when I was younger.

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