Ok girls, your feed-back on this? MtF post-op for 6years, tall and lean thus quite androgynous. Due to circumstances beyond my control I could not have full re-assignment (i.e a vagina) and subsequently settled for a eager li'l button that gives me great orgasms, cute little tits and a sense of resolution after 45 years of being in a self-created bubble.I have always seen myself as lesbian, several of my female lovers before I made my transition said I made love like a woman (with a built-in strap-on??) thru' the years I've shagged a few men and felt disappointed in myself after. I guess I was wanting someone to make me feel smaller and protected... what a joke... Just wish I could find a maverick 6' 5" tall woman who could drive well.I often describe myself as 3rd Gender as I can't deny my origins and feel I have retained what I need from those years but am now firmly living my desired state. My lifestyle means I spend my working life in jeans and vests ( weather in this cold and septic isle permitting). You can't hang lights, drive trucks and wrangle double basses in a twin-set and pearls can you? I am respected and treated as a woman by all the artists I have had the pleasure of working with for the last 15 years (yes even before transition) If there is ever any confusion I can quickly clear it with a few choice non-confrontational words. My beautiful and loving (step) kids have no problems and neither do my many caring friends. I guess a lot of labelling is due to the uniforms (drag?) we adopt and that may result in some dissatisfaction with the way we are acknowledged. I can switch from work mode to chic, or classic Gamine (extended) just by opening my wardrobe. Maybe Chameleon suits me better but not pretender...

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Hi Andi,

I'm just curious as after 3000+ views and 2 likes nobody seems to have replied yet.

Is there a specific point you want feedback on? as just thinking maybe worth putting a few pointers to give people an idea of what to think about.

Lesley xxx

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My feedback? Keep doing what you are doing. I've a soft spot for women who kick ass and it sounds like you are doing so handily. Holding back and going femme just to appease stereotypes is a choice of expression. I tried it for a bit and you know what? Women started ignoring me. 8/ Then I realized that I was putting on a straight woman's costume and expected a different reaction. Duh! I wasn't being myself, which is something I picked up on about others, but didn't see in me until a friend asked me why I was going for a Joan Jett rocker look instead of wearing pretty clothes when, in my mind, I was dressed just fine to hang out with him. I replied, "I'm not dressed like this for you. I'm dressed like this because I am comfortable this way." He pressed on with some rather misogynistic crap about "making the grade" and only called me up to come to his house when he had work he wanted help with, so sadly, we're no longer friends. I had a point...  Umm... Oh yeah! Be yourself because that's what will keep you respected and desirable.

I think you have it good, what with your support system and good friends. I've read that some women who have vaginas also don't care for vaginal penetration. I understand that it was not your choice to go that route, but in the end, it's all about having a fulfilling relationship and if the sex is rewarding for both of you, configuration shouldn't matter so very much.

Also, it would be a great service to your community if you'd let us know what those "choice, non-confrontational words" are!

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