Firecat719

California Desert Communities

From San Jacinto/Hemet to Banning/Beaumont, thru Palm Springs to Indio and all the way to Blythe ... do you know there is not one single lesbian bar/nightclub? There are tons of gay bars, and even one or two that are very lesbian friendly. But, there is not one single place to call our own.

When I was living in south Florida, we had one or two places, but eventually we had several others. Many of us got together and "took over" one place or another. As an idealistic example: there are many nice places in Palm Springs, which are not really doing all that well, finacially, and have a very low customer base. If a couple dozen lesbians decided, "were are going to make that place our own," be the place gay or str8, the owner will cater to us and our needs. The alternative, for that owner, is to go broke and eventually close his/her doors or sell out.

If my experiences in south Florida are any indication of possiblities, that couple dozen can turn into a many dozens of lesbian couples and singles, within 2 - 3 months.

I would love to hear people's thoughts an opinions on this concept. Perhaps we can get something going.

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As a lesbian in the Southern California Desert area (more specifically Hemet/San Jacinto area) I am very aware of the lack of locations to hang out. Granted we used to have a bar but they closed a few years back and that wasn't really a lesbian place but they were pretty cool about anyone and everyone. Now if I feel the need to get out, I just hit a local bar and grab a drink and deal with it. Would be nice if there was such a place though

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Nothing out here but the casinos and Jacumba spa...and don't even look is SD.

Let me know if you ladies find a place I really need to be around some women of my own kind.... 

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I am visiting the Palm Springs area and I thought I would stop by and see if there was any place to go and just hang out and meet people. Every so often I find a club but as it was mentioned before when I come back it has closed.

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Hello

I've lived in the Yucca Valley area for six years and have only met three lesbian

identified women here. One was my generation..but in the process of moving away

when I met her. The other two were younger then my daughter.

If there is a lesbian community here I have no idea where.

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I have lived all over the place. In total, I have claimed nearly 30 cities and 8 different countries, as home. I had a trans-Atlantic upbringing: born in Versailles, raised in central NY, southern FLA and just south of Dublin, Ireland. With all this, plus the many places I simply visited, I must state, "California, hands down, is the strangest place I have ever lived - or been - with regards to the lesbian lifestyle." What is so strange about it, you may wonder? NESTING!!!

"Nesting," is a very common lesbian concept, anywhere in the world. For those who are not familiar with the term, it is simply the concept of building a nice place to live blissfully, for ever after, with that one special person. In EVERY OTHER place on the planet...

I'm single. I don't want to be single. I'm putting down this pint of Chunky Monkey. Getting off my lazy ass, cleaning myself up, try to look as gorgeous as possible and getting the hell out of my house! Perhaps I will actually met someone. If not now, perhaps next time, or the time after that... This being single nonsense sucks! When I find that special someone, TOGETHER, we will nest. We will set up our happy little home, just the way WE like desire it.

In California - and ONLY in California - the whole nesting thing is a tad different...

I'm single. I don't want to be single. But, I really can't go out right now, because the kitchen floor needs re-tiling. I need to create the perfect nest, just for that special woman, whomever she may be. Should I meet this woman, I will have the perfect nest to welcome her into my life. So, I'll go out and find her NEXT weekend .. no .. wait... I can't next weekend, the carpet cleaners are coming and I have to get those new curtains put up, right after they leave. 30 years of excuses later, she's still single and desperately dragging herself out to a room filled with grey, white and blue haired lesbians, all wondering why they are still single!

Plus, to make matters worse; I swear, 80% of all dates I have had in California have felt like a job interview! They HONESTLY felt like this...

I really loved your resume [aka: profile or what some friend told her about me] and I was really interested in getting to know more about you [to determine if you would be a good fit for my company]. The position I am offering is a live in position. It comes complete with full bedroom and kitchen privileges, but you will need to supply any special items you may need. If this seems like something, in which you would be interested, I would be willing to offer you a second interview [aka: date]. I will call you, as to the particulars. From there, we can better determine how qualified you may or may not be. 

Believe it or not, I once had a date - very much as I described above - end with a handshake, as she simultaneously asked for a 2nd date!

Also, in Cali, lesbian comradery is almost non-existent. sure, there are a couple little clicks or small groups, here and there. But, for the most part, when Cali lesbians meet each other and the sparks don't fly ... thanks for the evening, have a nice life.

But... wait... We BOTH thought the other was a nice, decent, intelligent person. Sure there was no chemistry, no love connection. Does that mean a basic friendship is out of the question? I want to go out and have fun. You want to go out and have fun. You want to meet someone. I want to meet someone. Neither of us prefers to go out solo. Do you think we may share a common goal here? Are you afraid you may meet someone and I'll take her away from you? First off, friends would never do that to each other. Plus, if I'm chatting someone up and she tells me that you look delicious, I'm hooking you up!

 

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