Older..but Out Of Touch

I am new to this site..and this forum..but suspect I may be one of the older women here..I'm 65.

So some areas maybe..more experienced..definately..but what has now come to disturb that when it comes to my own lesbian identity..and the lesbian community..I have fallen almost totally out of touch. The painful ending of a difficult ten year relationship..17 years ago..left me first confused and reeling..then decidedly misbehaving..then the woods..then the desert..where I still am. Slowly old friendships faded. ended my wanderings. I adopted two dogs. I walk them in the desert..which stretches empty all the way to the mountains..right behind my back fence. I grew conent with my own company. I discovered..that for me..alone did not mean lonely. My

new friendships were all with women of my own generation. All intentionally single. All having traded the associated trauma and drama..for spiritual exploration. I stopped eating meat and processed sugar. I started eating soy and granola. I lost weight. I felt great. Then I got breast cancer.

In remission now..and extremely graatteful to be..I have suddenly awakened to two very disturbing facts:

I am beyond over living in the isolation of this desert..and all of my friends here are straight. That is why I am planning to move to Portland, favorite city on spring (so I can live my way as slowly as possible back to winter)..and why I am on this site. Nice to meet you..I'm Lynn.

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Well Lynn,

I'm hoping you've made your move & that things are now working out for you.

I completely changed by life at 46 by meeting a younger woman online & moving to be with her in Australia. I'm a FL native, originally. In the end, it turned out she was (clinically) mentally unstable in a very toxic way & I nearly lost my mind dealing with her. It took a whole lot of effort, but my children & I remain in AU & love it here.

Like you (& many others, I'm sure), I find myself surrounded by str8 folks & there's literally nothing in the way of LGBTI goings-on near here. If I were to travel about 80KM or so, I might find a pub, but that's not exactly what I'm looking for. Funnily enough, when I first moved here, nine yrs. ago, my then partner & I placed an ad looking for other lesbian couples w/kids (hoping for adult chat whilst also gaining the kids some friends). We had exactly three calls & they were guys looking for a 3rd for them & their GF's!  Lol...ummm, nooooooo thank you. Click.

So, all that to say, I'm in the same boat you were/are: getting used to being on my own. It reminds me of a very apropos post I saw somewhere which tidily sums it up:

Cheers!    :)

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