For purposes of getting everyone on more or less the same page within lesbotronic, please consider these the definitions of the following terms:lesbian = I consider myself a lesbian. I do not have sex with men currently, and think it extremely unlikely I will in the future.mostly gay = I am primarily attracted to women, and my serious relationships are mostly with women. However, I wouldn't completely rule out a relationship with a man in the future.bisexual = I consider myself bisexual, and open to the possibility of a serious, longer-term relationship with a woman OR a man. It's more about whoever attracts me next than a priority given to either gender.polyamorous and bisexual = Completely polyamorous AND bisexual. I will continue seeking romantic involvements with BOTH men and women. I'm happiest when currently involved in multiple relationships with both genders represented.just exploring = I would like to explore relationship(s) with women, but I expect my primary relationship to be with a man. Any relationship(s) with women would be separate and 'on the side.' (just exploring INDICATES YOUR MALE PARTNER WILL HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO EXPECTATION OF SEXUAL INVOLVEMENT WITH WHOMEVER YOU ARE SEEKING. AND YES, 'JUST WATCHING' DOES = INVOLVED.)with a man = I'm in a serious relationship with a man, and am looking for a bisexual woman to be sexually active with BOTH of us.While we understand that personal definitions of sexual orientation can change over time for many, please pick the best description for you right NOW.
Links to glossary items for those that require it:cisgenderedhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cisgenderedtransexualhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transexualtransgenderhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgendergenderqueerhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/GenderqueerIf you want to read definitions of any of those before answering, we'd recommend copying and pasting them into a separate browser window. Meaning, if you leave THIS browser window before completing your survey, you might lose your previous responses.
What sort(s) of new relationships interest you?You must select at least one, you can select all.For best results, we STRONGLY RECOMMEND including the friendship option.
(for purposes of this ?, polyamory = open to and/or already in multiple romantic and sexual relationships simultaneously with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. A poly relationship is more than casual and has an expectation of SOME degree of commitment and continuing future, but is not NECESSARILY as serious or committed as that of a life partner or spousal equivalent.)
I am interested in . . . (please pick 5)YES, WE DO KNOW, sometimes it's hard to pick just 5.But letting some people pick almost everything on here would be almost as meaningless as not having this question at all, see?It's supposed to be about what you spend MOST of your time doing, and there are only so many hours in the day.If you really and truly do have 25 hobbies, please just pick the 5 you've spent the most time on LATELY.(If you pick more than 5, only your first 5 will make it into your profile.)
You're almost done!
Name at LEAST 5 things you love. (You can name as many as you like.)These could be actual "things"/physical/material objects, or instead favorite qualities about your favorite people.Or other people, places, experiences, books, movies, bands, video games, vacations, animals, cooking utensils, political movements,activities, foods, flavors, smells, sensations, colors, memories, anything else you'd care to include, etc.Really, "things" here is VERY broadly defined.This freetext area is REQUIRED.While this form will submit if you type nothing other than, "I'll come back to this later," your profile will be actual-lesbian-human-reviewed before you're allowed in.Anyone who can't be bothered with at least a half-assed effort here will FAIL QUALITY CONTROL.
Name at LEAST 5 things you hate. (You can name as many as you like.)OR OR ORif you have a problem with the word "hate,"something you abhor, or merely dislike.OR just anything at all that can make your day a little less enjoyable.Just like the love question, these could be actual "things" or otherwise.Or pet peeves, or "turn-offs" for you, or big interpersonal NO-NO's, or relationship deal breakers.This freetext area is REQUIRED.While this form will submit if you type nothing other than, "I'll come back to this later," your profile will be actual-lesbian-human-reviewed before you're allowed in.Anyone who can't be bothered with at least a half-assed effort here will FAIL QUALITY CONTROL.
Other than the stuff you already checked off, what sort are you hoping to meet here?What do you hope that relationship might look like?This freetext area is REQUIRED.While this form will submit if you type nothing other than, "I'll come back to this later," your profile will be actual-lesbian-human-reviewed before you're allowed in.Anyone who can't be bothered with at least a half-assed effort here will FAIL QUALITY CONTROL.
Share at least 5 things about yourself NOT already covered. (You can name as many as you like.)What else is interesting or relevant or important about you?Think the options for one of the multiple choice questions didn't entirely capture all the wonder that is you? Here's the place you've invited to elucidate exactly how that's so!But for the love of everything holy, do not MERELY say something like,
"Oh, that question didn't have enough choices for me,"or"The options weren't sufficiently groovy to adequately encompass MY identity."
And. Then. That. Is. All.Just. The. Petulant. Complaint.Nothing. Else.Grrrr.Argggh.Do go ahead and also INCLUDE what you would have said INSTEAD, alrighty?You could also include a question you WISH we'd asked on the questionnaire, but didn't. (But then do answer it for yourself TOO. It's really only polite.)This freetext area is REQUIRED.While this form will submit if you type nothing other than, "I'll come back to this later," your profile will be actual-lesbian-human-reviewed before you're allowed in.Anyone who can't be bothered with at least a half-assed effort here will FAIL QUALITY CONTROL.
All members see other members where they live by default.You can ALSO choose up to 5 additional cities.(That means you don't have to choose any, or you could choose only 1, 2, 3, or 4 additional cities.)Choosing no additional cities means you'll stick with your city only.
Please select up to 5.(If you select more than 5, only the first 5 will make it in.)The order is United States, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Europe, Middle East, Russian Federation, India and Southeast Asia, Oceania, Mexico, Central America, Caribbean / West Indies, South America, Africa.Places are roughly within alphabetical order by state/province/country within those regions.Just like before, if the exact town you want isn't listed, you'd pick the next closest place, then scroll to the bottom and hit next.
(Yes, we know, the African continent features many countries not represented here. But we really don't expect much traffic to our site from much of it. This is the division that makes the most sense at this time. If you would like somewhere in Africa but not one of the countries/cities below, please select the closest.)
Photos are not required, but we strongly recommend including one.
Members who post headshots are much more popular than those who fail to post a headshot. (Trust us on this. We know.)
So, HEADSHOTS ONLY are allowed as your initial profile photo.
If you post something other than what we imagine is an actual headshot of the same person submitting this profile, it will be deleted. It's clever to keep it classy.
Again (because it's important enough to repeat), headshots are best, or tasteful bodyshots with your face still clearly visible.
WHY only headshots here?
ONE. Lesbotronic is a real community full of real people who are looking to form real relationships, many leading to off-the-internet, "in real life" interactions.
It's not only a bunch of swiping right or left and/or thumbing up or down that usually fails to lead to much of anything at all other than more swiping and/or thumbing.
It's also not a horde of unfortunates who slimily oozed by just to vent some spleen at someone else, imagining it's totally and completely awesome to behave like total cretins while hiding behind complete anonymity.
So, nothing other than a headshot is appropriate here.
If everything we just said above doesn't sound great to you, you probably don't belong here. You should probably just leave now.
TWO. Nothing other than a headshot usually motivates anyone else to click on your profile, message you, or reply if you message them.
Yes, we do really know. You can trust us on this. Failure to include a headshot will usually mean your profile will fail to attract anyone at all.
If you're concerned about privacy, please read about lesbotronic and privacy overall on this link:
(but you may want to copy and paste that into another window, as clicking away right now might mean losing previous answers)
. . . to learn how you can post a headshot but keep its exposure relatively private, if you do feel more privacy is necessary in your case.
What is your name? This can be your real name, or a nickname, whatever you like.
Please try to select something that's likely unique, meaning, not already in use by another member. If you select something that someone else is already using, we will have to embellish it a bit, probably add a number or two, something like that. So if you don't want us to do that, please go ahead and embellish it/make it unique yourself.
(To put this another way, if you type just a very common first name, like "Heather" or "Hannah" and nothing else, we might have to add a number or two.)
Please do NOT enter any attempts at html formatting, or emoticons, or emojis. Alphanumeric characters only, please.
Commonsensical caution: This "name" is how other members will know you, at least initially. So if you don't want them to have your entire given first and last name right off the bat, then DO NOT TYPE THAT HERE. Cheers, thanks a lot.
Personal URL? This is OPTIONAL.(not just something on the internet you like, but if you have your own domain for personal reasons or a MySpaceBookInstaTweetGrambotSnappish page type of thing)
Please type your email address carefully, then give it a quick look before sending.You can't get in without a valid email address, no typos.We would recommend using a "personal" email account instead of something from an employer. Some employers frown on use of their email servers for non-job stuff.
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