Search Results?


Your Search Results are available both inside your own profile via the Search Results tab, or as a footer on most discussion pages on the Board.

Since profiles are private, you must be a registered member that is signed in to see them. If you are NOT signed in, neither your profile nor Your Search Results will be visible.

Emailed about someone new? They should be in your Search Results, if you got there in time.

Search results are based on geography, plus seven additional factors.

You get other members in your city of residence by default. Then, you can also choose up to 5 additional cities for your search results, and/or select the "everywhere" option.

In addition to geography, you can also narrow your search results by:

age (9 age ranges),

educational level (9 educational levels),

sexual orientation (6 different types),

gender expression (9 different options),

gender identity (5 different options),

ethnicity (8 different options), and

relationship type desired (6 different relationship types).

AND THEN, not only are your search results narrowed by who YOU said YOU were and who YOU wanted to meet, but they narrow based on the other member's criteria as well.

So for example, using only one of the criteria above, gender expression, let's say you said you were a femme looking to meet other femmes. You might think that would mean that ANY other member identifying as femme could potentially appear in your search results.

But NO, that's actually NOT the case, UNLESS those other femme members also said they wanted to meet other femmes. So if another member said she is femme but only interested in meeting other butch members, then that member would NOT be in your search results.

(There's a even more detailed description of all of the above in frequently asked questions.)


. . . what happened to the previous search function that searched the whole database and/or why in the world do my search results currently only feature the last dozen members that qualified?"

Short Answer: Too many "smart" phones weren't smart enough to execute our search function on the whole database. So it had to go bye bye, for now.

In the meantime, your search results feature the latest (most recently signed up) members that meet your search options, and you also meet theirs.

Longer Answer: So your search results (previously and still currently) feature all the factors listed above, then additionally narrowed in reverse based on that other member's search options as well.

So, everyone in your search results has already stated that THEY want to meet someone like YOU.

It's not just your search criteria, who you say you want to meet. It's who they say they want to meet TOO.

Not just on your end. Not just on their end. Mutual. Both ways.

In techie speak, it has extremely fine granularity. In everyday speak, it's hella complicated.

And increasingly, seemingly a LOT more in just the last several months, it really doesn't work on a lot of today's newer and cheaper mobile devices. No, we don't mean that we couldn't format search results so they would display inside a tiny window, that part is easier. We mean the the actual database search function itself, automated, with that whole list of stuff included automatically.

Much more complicated.

And we had to conclude that many of today's cheaper mobile devices are not capable of executing it. They just . . . give up and go blank.

So also increasingly, seemingly a LOT more in just the last several months, we've been getting a lot of angry emails saying, "My phone won't display my search even though YOU JUST SENT ME AN EMAIL saying there were somebodies in there and WHY IS THAT?!?!?!?!??!????!"

And even more also increasingly . . . those particular emails were draining our will to keep running this thing at all.

However, if we were to keep running this thing, we also knew we really didn't want to alter the essential granularity of the search function, because we still think it's cool. We like the intense ability to narrow down and weed out anyone that probably wouldn't be interested or interesting based on all those factors above, and think it's actually still a "function" that has real life social functionality.

So what to do?

We could slather warnings all over the site that say, "NO, THIS WILL PROBABLY NOT WORK on your cheaper "smart" phone / digital watch / fitbit / big left toe covered in glitter paint" or . . . create a different version of the site that often would.

(OK, maybe not the fitbit.)

How could we keep the finely grained search functionality AND have that actually display on some of the newer mobile devices that feature more or less a Cheeto as a processor chip?

Without the Cheetos throwing up their cheesy lil' hands in surrender, that is, thus leading to the aforementioned angry emails from their owners?

The solution we finally arrived upon is that the search results are no longer "live." And they no longer feature the entire database, just your last dozen members that qualified.

They're no longer "live," meaning, executed on the fly, on demand, whenever the user clicks that button. What they now actually are is a much smaller set of results for each user profile. This set will be updated periodically via a script we will run on the whole database, probably when we accept new profiles and do that database update as well.

So the Cheetos are no longer required to even TRY to execute a complicated search function on demand. All they have to do is display that periodically preloaded content, and only the last dozen newbies, which should be pretty easy for even the Cheetos to do.


This also means that no, your search results will not update automatically whenever you edit your profile. Your next search results member update will take place the next time we run an update on the whole database, not just whenever you update something on your own profile.

NO, we can't tell you exactly how often that will be, but rest assured, we're already doing it as often as we can.

So in order to avoid confusion (well, actually we would have recommended this previously too, but moving on . . .) we would strongly recommend giving some thought to what sort of folks you'd like to meet, choosing those search options on your profile accordingly, then just LEAVING it for the time being. Meaning, constant updates to your criteria will not produce immediate live changes, so they're likely to confuse both yourself and potentially other members too.

You should give a minute or two of thought to your situation and preferences, then let those search option criteria ride for as long as possible. By "as long as possible," no, we're NOT discouraging updating based on substantial life shifts, geographic moves, relationship availability changes, etc. If something did actually happen that would strongly suggest an update to your search options would be appropriate, then by all means, UPDATE.

What we do mean is that lots of frequent tiny changes will probably only lead to confusing the heck out of yourself. And possibly someone else.

(So maybe don't do that.)


So same as it ever was, you'll be sent an email when a new member enters your search results.

But now NOT same as it ever was, these notifications are now MUCH MORE time sensitive. Meaning, if you do not go view the newbie announced in your notification email within the near future, they may have "rolled off" your last dozen to make room for more newbies. And then they won't be in your search results anymore by the time you get there.

No, we can't precisely define "near future" for you, because how many newbies you get, which also means how quickly the older matches roll off, is dependent on your personal demographic and selected search options. It's going to be different for everyone.

But we can say they will roll off eventually, and sooner rather than later based on how many newbies sign up that match your search options.

So again, we would very strongly recommend telling your email provider to accept all email from:

. . . to avoid missing any newbie notifications entirely and/or avoid letting them go to your "spam" folder where you might not notice them until it's too late.


You may already suspect that all this means that members that have been active for a while are NOT going to be appearing as often in the search results of newer members.

So yup, that's true. Members that have been active for a while will see their newbies in their own search results, but those same newbies are more likely to be seeing newer members in theirs.

So OH NO! What to do?


You can make sure any given newbie popping up in your search results that's appealing to you CAN see your profile by sending them a message yourself. (Which hopefully, you'd already be doing anyway, if you're the clever sort.)

And then anyone to whom you've sent a message will be able to see you / view your profile from their messages area, even if you're no longer visible / were never visible in their search results.

So if someone is appealing to you, and you would like to make sure you get in touch with them before they roll off, send them a message sooner rather than later. Later might be substantially less convenient if not entirely impossible.


This is also where participating on the board would be useful too, so you're no longer just in "Wallflower Mode." Other members of lesbotronic can see your posts on the board, even if you never were / are no longer in their search results.

To put this another way, merely creating a profile then passively just waiting around for something to happen or for someone else to message you first is not a clever strategy, especially after the first few weeks. Without posting anything on the board and/or sending messages, very few would be able to see that you're here at all.

If you posted on the board, other members could click on your profile next to your post and message you that way. You wouldn't even have to be in their search results for that to happen.


Yes, this whole thing means that those of you on desktops, laptops, decent tablets, and more competent iPhones no longer have your whole database of search results available. And we're disappointed about that too. However, those Cheeto emails were draining our will to live, just a tiny bit. Definitely draining our desire to keep this site on.

We imagine we will reinstate a more automated complex search in the future that will incorporate the whole database . . . but only when we're fairly confident it will execute successfully on most cheaper mobile devices (whatever the next generation is, or next generation after that). We were forced to conclude that's just not the case right now for anything as complicated as our previous search function, no matter how we'd program it.

Meanwhile, as opposed to other site features regarding which we've already accepted much feedback and incorporated what was constructive . . . there really isn't anything at all anyone can say with regard to this that's going to serve any purpose other than getting on our very last nerve. Anyone who's even the slightest bit sensitive will have already intuited that the Cheeto situation has been a huge source of irritation for us.

Hence, unlike many site changes made in the past, we're really NOT inviting anyone to comment on this one.

If you have an absolutely raging desire to comment on this, you can privately message us, but please tread carefully.

If you imagine your comment isn't absolutely required and spectacularly helpful JUST WITH REGARD TO THIS ONE ISSUE, it really is not likely required or helpful at all.

Cheers, thanks a lot!